Mothers Day

To the women who are struggling on this day, I see you. If you grew up with a mother who was toxic, or maybe abusive, or just wasn’t what you needed or wanted. I see you. Maybe you are still carrying around the weight of the situations you were put in, angry and resentfull. If that’s the case, today probably doesn’t feel like a joyful day for you and you would rather just skip it.

I understand. More than you know. I spent YEARS, like two decades, having my walls up, angry and blaming my mother for the trauma I endured, once I learned that word. I had no clue why I was so angry at first. Honestly, that anger served me well when the light finally switched on and I had to kick her out of my house and went no contact for 10 years. That’s when I learned another word…boundaries! (More on that later)

Today I want to tell you, there is hope. There is redemption and restoration. Maybe not with your mother, but for yourself. I’m asking you today to consider laying down the anger and resentment and forgive her. NOT for her, and not forget, but for you, and your children. They need you to model that for them, unlike your mother.

healing is not overnight, matter of fact, it’s not linear either. But I encourage you just to take the first step. There can be and is a place on the other side that is joyful, lighthearted and filled with love. You are going to have to be vulnerable….i know, I know….its hard. But I’ve learned over the years that it does not mean weakness, actually quite opposite.

You aren’t alone. You are beautiful, worth it and so loved. I want you, on this Morhers Day, to look around you, think back. Who are the women in your life who have stood in the gaps for you! Call them. Tell them the impact they made in your life. And that you are thankful, start there!

much love, TB